Monday Meme: Enthusiasm
- At July 25, 2016
- By danmclellan
- In Monday Meme
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Born today in 1844, painter, sculptor and educator Thomas Eakins is unquestionably one of America’s master artists. We honor him on his birthday with a Monday Meme featuring his art and words. Known for his landscapes, figurative paintings and the incredibly famous and controversial, The Gross Clinic, Thomas Eakins’ legacy is not one without mystery or debate. The ongoing presence of the male figure in his work has led to decades of “Was he or wasn’t he” type of discussions. Clearly homoerotic in tone, many of his figure studies have caused scholars to look deeper in Eakins’ personal life. Eakins, although married, was well-known to have close intimate relationships with male students and colleagues including sculptor Samuel Murray. Murray was a constant companion to Eakins in the latter years of his life. The relationship with Murray is said have been more important to Eakins than his marriage to fellow painter Susan Hannah Macdowell. Alas, the art world will never know the sexuality of Thomas Eakins. Instead, what we’re left with is the breathtaking work of master artist able to capture America and the men who lived there in an era long gone.
Sweet Starbucks Proposal for Actor Daniel Franzese
- At July 19, 2016
- By danmclellan
- In Fun, Pop Culture
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You just never know what will happen at your local Starbucks. Actor Daniel Franzese popped the question to his longtime boyfriend this week at the North Hollywood branch of the mega-coffee chain where the pair met. Franzese, known best for his role as Damian in the 2004’s Mean Girls and more recently on HBO’s Looking, recently proposed to his partner Joseph Bradley Phillips. Here’s People with the full scoop on the adorable proposal.
The actor, 38, popped the question at a Starbucks in North Hollywood where the couple – who have been together for more than a year – met for the first time.When they arrived at the coffee chain, Franzese slipped the ring to one of the baristas, whom he had spoken to the day before about the proposal plan.And as the barista called out the pair’s coffee orders, she referred to them as “Mr. & Mr. Franzese” – and handed Phillips a different order, saying it was a new drink he should try.Once Phillips opened the cup with the ring inside, Franzese got down on one knee and said to him: “Since I first saw you here, you have opened your heart to me, and I vow to God that for the rest of my life to honor and protect that heart if you will be my husband. Will you marry me?” the Looking star told his future husband. Phillips, who’s in fashion marketing, will take Franzese’s last name, his rep confirms.”Joseph has given me the best of his heart and I’m so happy he said yes,” Franzese tells PEOPLE exclusively. “Finding my soulmate has made all the years I struggled with myself worth it.” He added, “We can’t wait to be Mr. & Mr. Franzese.”
Congrats to the happy couple!
Monday Meme: Bacon

Love– part of a balanced breakfast! Today’s Monday meme features gay icon Rock Hudson and a quote from underrated but important LGBT author Patricia Nell Warren. Talk about delicious. Warren wrote The Front Runner, the first gay novel to make the New York Times bestseller list way back in 1974. The book chronicled the story of a gay track coach’s struggle to get an openly gay runner on the US Olympic team. Controversial, funny and ahead of its time, The Front Runner is now considered a classic in gay fiction. Warren later became an advocate for LGBT youth and even ran for City Council in West Hollywood in 2006.
LGBT Wedding Spending Nearly Doubled Since Equality Ruling
- At July 15, 2016
- By danmclellan
- In Cards
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A new study on LGBTQ weddings, released earlier this month from The Knot, finds that spending on weddings has almost doubled since last year’s historic Supreme Court ruling. Popular wedding website The Knot shared the its fourth annual LGBTQ wedding study and it’s filled with all kinds of fascinating facts on how our community gets married in 2016. For starters, The Knot found, “Men spend an average of $33,822 on their weddings, compared with $25,334 for women. Prior to legalization, the average cost was $18,242 for male couples and $16,218 for females in 2015.” Also, when it comes to traditional weddings LGBTQ are surprisingly in favor of keeping it old school. “One-third of LGBTQ couples report deciding which wedding traditions to uphold was ‘challenging'”, The Knot says. “But 65 percent of men and 70 percent of women say their wedding will fall under the ‘traditional’ category.” Lastly, the study found that couples preferred to get married in the fall over the spring or summer. “September and October are the most popular months to get married for men, while a combined 32 percent of women prefer August or October,” according to the Knot. The study also found nearly half LGBTQ couples consider their wedding a destination affair.
WATCH: New Ad Hopes to Change Minds About Transgender Equality
- At July 12, 2016
- By danmclellan
- In News, Orlando, Politics
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Set to air during next week’s Republican National Convention, a television commercial illustrates the bigotry and unfairness that transgender people face when wanting to use the restroom. Mara Keisling, the executive director of the National Center for Transgender Equality, wrote about the ad for Advocate.com:
The National Center for Transgender Equality is part of Fairness USA, a partnership that includes the Freedom for All Americans Education Fund, the Movement Advancement Project, the Equality Federation, the Equality Ohio Education Fund, and the National Center for Lesbian Rights. Today we are launching a major public education campaign — the first of its kind — to raise awareness of the need for protections for transgender people across the United States.
The centerpiece of the campaign is an ad that will be aired during the Republican National Convention. The ad depicts mistreatment and harassment that many transgender people across the country have faced and continue to face when they need to use the restroom.
Newly released survey data from NCTE shows that 59 percent of transgender people have avoided bathrooms in the last year because they were afraid of problems like being confronted by others. A shocking one in 10 (12 percent of) transgender people report they have been harassed, attacked, or sexually assaulted in a bathroom in the last year, and one-third of transgender people have avoided drinking or eating so that they did not need to use the restroom. In the majority of states, restaurant and store managers can legally stop transgender people from using bathrooms that match the gender they live as every day — or kick them out of their restaurant or store just for being transgender.
This is appalling, but we are no longer fighting this battle alone. Much like the state-by-state marriage equality battles, we have seen that when people get to know their LGBT colleagues, neighbors, and friends for who they are, their opposition weakens and their support grows. Today, as more transgender men and women step forward to tell their stories, and parents advocate for their transgender or questioning children, negative attitudes are challenged and hearts and minds open up. In truth, we’re a mishmash community like everyone else — some of us are raising children, most of us are regular working folks, and some of us are serving in the military.
Those who support us see us for who we are – people. And in the same way that they’ve opened their hearts and minds, so too have voters across the country. Just last month, Quinnipiac University released findings from three swing states in the presidential race — Florida, Ohio, and Pennsylvania — showing that support for transgender people is on the rise.
The poll found that 48 percent of Floridians, 43 percent of Ohioans, and 49 percent of Pennsylvania voters support the rights of transgender people to use the public bathroom that corresponds with their gender identity. And one could argue that the rise from just a month earlier, when CNN and Gallup found national support hovering at or below 40 percent, comes at a time when the so-called bathroom debate has gotten ugly.
Transgender people are deserving of the same rights and protections that every other American citizen enjoys and, frankly, thinks little about. At a time when the world can seem both dangerous and uncertain, and after the tragedy that took place during Latin Night at Pulse nightclub in Orlando, where LGBT patrons were heartlessly gunned down, it’s time to focus more on our shared values and less on our perceived differences.
So many people, LGBT or not, have experienced some level of discrimination at some point or another, and no one goes back looking for more. We dismantle the hate with unity and compassion, but we also need protections under the law whether that’s in employment, accommodations or, yes, being able to use the bathroom that matches who we are.
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